Playin’ With the Youngin’s

June 28, 2010

I don’t pay enough attention to my younger parts. They tell me their stories, but they don’t often get to play or express themselves. Part of the reason is that they trigger me. Even my own girls trigger me. It’s very frustrating. I have tried several times to color, paint, write, etc., but nothing comes out. I’m just frozen, and that’s a bit like how I was as a child as far as I can remember. So, Kate1975 has this great list of activities for younger parts and I’m trying some with the girls (and my son if he wants to).

So, my first project is the painted garden sticks project:

I primed the sticks and we have 3 sticks each. The girls are excited about doing this one.

I’ll take a picture when they’re finished, too. It’s really hard to connect with the younger parts and I don’t know why. They are willing to share some of their experiences but that’s about it. I can’t even remember what I did or enjoyed as a child. An important thing I do remember is my friend’s mother teaching me how to crochet when I was 8 years old. That’s it as far as fun, creative things.

How do you connect with the little ones?


It’s been about 2 hours or so and we finished some and placed them in the garden:

This is hubby’s flower garden. The plant behind the garden sticks is actually a huge pokeweed. I broke the news to hubby last week that it wasn’t going to be a flower, but it’s still a cool-looking plant.

Even while we painted these I didn’t feel any connection to the little ones. Maybe I need to just keep working on it.

9 Responses to “Playin’ With the Youngin’s”

  1. Bee Says:

    It is also hard for me to connect with my younger alters… Allie, my 10 year old alter, is the one I am closest to out of the younger ones and that is because she likes me so much. She loves loves loves to be around little kids and play with them. She also loves to play dress up, color, and be with our mom. I’m not sure what some of my other younger alters like to do… Most of them color in their own coloring books and I know one likes to take pictures and scrapbook them. Other than that, I am still learning about them. It just takes time and patience with them. Just keep working at it!


    • roseroars Says:

      You guys have your own coloring books? Lucky……

      Thanks. I will keep working with them.

      • Bee Says:

        Yep! Each split that wanted a coloring book got to go to the store and pick one out for themselves. They also got to choose their own markers/colored pencils to use with their coloring book. It really helps them. We picked all this stuff out at the dollar store so it was really cheap. If you can, you should get some coloring books for your younger ones – if they would like that kind of thing.

  2. castorgirl Says:

    I also find it difficult to be in touch with the younger, playful ones. Usually the only glimpses I get are in toy stores and the like, where there’s a sense of excitement. I find that I’m more likely to be aware of them when I’m either triggered – so get the anxiety, fear and flashbacks; or when I’m really calm and safe – where I get the excitement and fun coming through.

    Intellectually, I know I must have played as a child, but I don’t remember doing so.

    I wonder if it’s like the tears and emotions… we need to learn and trust that it is safe before we can play and express the joy?

    Kate does amazing lists, doesn’t she πŸ™‚
    The painted sticks make up for the lack of flowers on the shrub… I hope your hubby was suitably impressed!

    Take care,

    • roseroars Says:

      “Intellectually, I know I must have played as a child, but I don’t remember doing so.” – Yes! Same here.

      I thought I would bring this up in therapy this week.

      Thank you. Hubby was actually confused……..

  3. tai0316 Says:

    It’s too early for me to know much about connecting to anyone but I find everyone’s expreiences doing so very interesting. You guys are really in touch with what’s going on.

    • roseroars Says:

      Silly! I have no clue what’s going on! Mwa-ha-ha!!!!

      Thank you. The connections seem to come and go inside. It’s confusing.

  4. Brynne Says:

    Hi, I’m new to your blog. I have been reading your posts and I find you fascinating! I love the way you talk about getting to know your alters and the struggles you face. I was just recently diagnosed with DID and I find myself not knowing what to do but your blog has really helped me. I look forward to learning a lot from you.


    • roseroars Says:

      Aw, shucks…thank you! It helps me to write things out here and get suggestions and opinions from the amazing people who stop by. I’m very glad I helped in some way. Maybe it pays to be a sarcastic bitch! πŸ™‚

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